By, C. W. Stratton: The evolution and transformation of our existence is such a wonder yet profound process. As we recall a number of beliefs we once held, during our early stages of life, this may bring some of us to many thoughts and realizations regarding our current place in life. There may have been a point in time that we believed we would maintain the old thought process throughout our existence. Assessing this creates a probable response of, “I was trapped”. This trap may have manifested as being in a place where we needed to conform to the environment and others in order to survive; not survive in the sense that death was a possibility. This type of survival is associated with saving face and maintaining a certain reputation among your association or peers. This created self-deception to the point that a character was created along the way. The character we’ve created presented as our reality.
The portrayal displayed needed to be maintained at all times, no matter the possible consequences of the deception. It was like the actor who never goes out of character; even off screen. Over time, the portrayal almost felt like our “true-self”. Although there were instances where breaking character was appropriate, but the pull to be other that ourselves was much greater. The deceptive-self (portrayal) was greatly accepted amongst our associates. However, during this process of self-deception, many of us experienced constant turmoil within. The turmoil may have gotten so overwhelming that it may have even manifested as an explosion. These explosions may have been toward those close to us or even towards ourselves. We became so lost in the chaos, deception and explosiveness that it became even more difficult to get in touch with our “true-selves.” There are those who have been able to come to the realization of the dangers that self-deception has created, and as result a moment of reflection, perspective and assessment was granted. Many of us were able to break free of the “trap” we existed in for years.
Breaking free and coming to a state of enlightenment regarding the “true-self” eventually concluded that who we truly are enough, and the need to have that character to validate who we “thought” we were became non-existent. Coming to terms with this requires hard work, discipline and a sincere effort of “Love Self”. The evolution and transformation is an ongoing process. Mara (the evil to that tempts, corrupts, instills fear and negatively influences us) is no longer invited into our lives once this realization is made. However, we must always acknowledge it exists because the aforementioned were all active ingredients to our “self-deception”. Taking time to continue working on self and utilizing concepts and practices that feed our true-selves will become the fortress that protects us from that character that we once harbored. Having the courage to sit with our true-selves, daily, without fear, can broaden our enlightenment and willingness to grow as a person. We are not perfect beings, but many of us strive to be. Take off the mask, step away from the stage and lights to acknowledge who we truly are.