By, C.W. Stratton
During life we will be challenged and even forced to take a real close look at ourselves and our current position in life. Forced self-assessment can be fear provoking and overwhelming for the most part. The self-assessment can be catapulted by our interactions with our loved ones, colleagues, friends or other associates. The results of the self-assessment can bring about fear, shame, guilt and even pain; for some of us. There are those of us that may harbor these feelings to the point of feeling total defeat and not wanting to improve our situation. We tend to protect these harmful feelings and thoughts with all we have.
During our illogical phase, which can last a moment or for a significant period of time, we harm ourselves and others in the process. If our self-assessment indicates that bad decisions, behaviors or mistakes were made in our lives, we have the ability to resolve and restore. Making a bad decision doesn’t make us bad people. That decision can be transformed into a learning a experience that can help propel us to where we really want to be. The key is not to stay “stuck” in the bad decision or in the feelings that come with it. Looking within ourselves and finding the strength that we all possess to move forward is such an enlightening experience.
Looking at ourselves (our Inner-Self; is who we are) and acknowledging the natural gifts and talents that we possess is key. We have the tendency of being more focused on our personality (things outside of ourselves; family, careers, friends, material things, certain behaviors, etc.), opposed to digging deeper to look at our Inner Self. We can overcome the negative thoughts and feelings that we may have about ourselves by tapping into our natural abilities and talents that exist. There are those times where we may say we are having a bad day, but what I’ve found over time, it’s really a bad moment that I hold on to for a whole day. Self-assessment isn’t a bad thing, it an opportunity to see where change and growth need to occur.